{"id":1609,"date":"2025-08-06T18:34:28","date_gmt":"2025-08-06T18:34:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thegrandedaringadventure.org\/?p=1609"},"modified":"2025-08-06T18:50:05","modified_gmt":"2025-08-06T18:50:05","slug":"the-wounds","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thegrandedaringadventure.org\/tr\/2025\/08\/06\/the-wounds\/","title":{"rendered":"Yaralar"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"\"<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

Yaralar<\/h1>\n\n\n\n

Yine oldu\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu her zaman olan \u015fey.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Neden sevdi\u011fim herkes beni terk ediyor?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7ok fazla yer kapl\u0131yorum.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bir\u00e7ok kez hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011frat\u0131ld\u0131m.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Liste uzay\u0131p gidiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sana s\u0131r olmayan bir s\u0131r vermemize izin ver; hepimiz yaralara sahibiz. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00c7ocuklu\u011fumuzun ilk zamanlar\u0131nda, \u00e7o\u011funlukla 9 ya\u015f\u0131na gelene kadar, nas\u0131l process edeyece\u011fimizi(i\u015fleyece\u011fimizi) ya da kendimizi nas\u0131l koruyaca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 bilemedi\u011fimiz zamanda,\no yaralar\u0131 ald\u0131k.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve \u00e7ok ac\u0131tt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in \"Bunu bir daha asla istemiyorum.\u201d dedik. Bu y\u00fczden maskeler\ntakt\u0131k. Bizi maskeyi takmaya iten \u015fey hayatta kalma i\u00e7g\u00fcd\u00fcs\u00fcyd\u00fc. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\"Her yara varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n oldu\u011fu gibi kabul edilmedi\u011fini hissetti\u011fimiz bir an\u2019dan gelir.\u201d Lise Bourbeau<\/em><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

5 Yara<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Lise Bourbeau 5 yara hakk\u0131nda yazd\u0131; Reddedilme, Terk Edilme, A\u015fa\u011f\u0131lanma, \u0130hanet, Adaletsizlik. \u0130\u015fte k\u0131sa bir bak\u0131\u015f;<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Reddedilme<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Maske:<\/strong> \u0130\u00e7ine Kapan\u0131k(\u0130\u00e7ine \u00c7ekilmi\u015f)
Temel Korku:<\/strong> \"\u0130stenmiyorum.\"<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu yara erken olu\u015fur, s\u0131kl\u0131kla dilden \u00f6nce. \u00c7ocuk olarak biz varl\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n \"\u00e7ok fazla\" veya \"ho\u015f kar\u015f\u0131lanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131\" mesaj\u0131n\u0131 i\u00e7selle\u015ftiririz.
Bu y\u00fczden duygusal, zihinsel ve hatta bazen ruhsal olarak kendimizi ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Terk Edilme<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Maske:<\/strong> Ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131
Temel Korku:<\/strong> \"Terk edilece\u011fim.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu genellikle biz \u00e7ocuk olarak duygusal olarak desteklenmedi\u011fimizi hissetti\u011fimizde\nortaya \u00e7\u0131kar, orada kimse olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ekten anlayan kimse olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan.
G\u00fcvende hissetmek i\u00e7in d\u0131\u015far\u0131dan onaylanmaya ihtiya\u00e7 duyarak b\u00fcy\u00fcr\u00fcz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. A\u015fa\u011f\u0131lama<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Maske:<\/strong> Mazo\u015fist
Temel Korku:<\/strong> \"\u0130htiya\u00e7lar\u0131m utan\u00e7 verici.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu, merak, ne\u015fe, haz ya da beden gibi do\u011fal \u015feyler i\u00e7in, alay edilmekten, azarlanmaktan ya da utand\u0131r\u0131lmaktan kaynaklanabilir.
B\u00f6ylece k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fcl\u00fcr\u00fcz. \"\u0130yi\" hale geliriz. Var oldu\u011fumuz i\u00e7in \u00f6z\u00fcr dileriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u0130hanet<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Maske:<\/strong> Kontrolc\u00fc
Temel Korku:<\/strong> "\u0130nsanlar beni ba\u015far\u0131s\u0131zl\u0131\u011fa u\u011fratacak.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu, g\u00fcvendi\u011fimiz birinin, \u00f6zellikle kar\u015f\u0131 cinsten bir ebeveynin, bu g\u00fcveni bozmas\u0131yla olu\u015fur.
Bu sebeple a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 fonksiyon g\u00f6steririz, bask\u0131lar\u0131z ya da k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131ktan ka\u00e7\u0131nmak i\u00e7in duygusal\nolarak mesafeli dururuz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Adaletsizlik<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Maske:<\/strong> Kat\u0131l\u0131k
Temel Korku:<\/strong> \"M\u00fckemmel olmazsam cezaland\u0131r\u0131laca\u011f\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu durum s\u0131kl\u0131kla ifade edici olman\u0131n ele\u015ftiriye yol a\u00e7t\u0131\u011f\u0131 a\u015f\u0131r\u0131 kat\u0131 veya duygusal olarak so\u011fuk ortamlardan gelir.
B\u00f6ylece bizler m\u00fckemmeliyet\u00e7i, hissiz ya da kontrol\u00fc s\u00fcrd\u00fcrmek i\u00e7in duygusal\nolarak mesafeli hale geliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yara \u201cBu ac\u0131y\u0131 tekrar istemiyorum.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maske \u201cTamam Bir daha hi\u00e7 kimsenin senin bu par\u00e7an\u0131 g\u00f6rmeyece\u011finden\nemin olaca\u011f\u0131m.\u201d dedi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve anla\u015fma sa\u011fland\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ama olan \u015fu ki, maskeyi takm\u0131\u015f olsan bile, alt\u0131ndan kanamaya devam ettin.\n\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yaran\u0131n kanamaya devam etmesini sa\u011flamak i\u00e7in durumlar ve insanlar yaratt\u0131n. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kazanaca\u011f\u0131n bir \u015fey vard\u0131. Ama o ne? \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu maskeler sana \u00e7ok iyi hizmet ettiler. Amaa art\u0131k de\u011fil, gitmekte oldu\u011fun yerde sana hizmet edemezler. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bu yaray\u0131 da maskeyi de su\u00e7lamak i\u00e7in de\u011fil. \u00d6\u011frenece\u011fin bir \u015fey vard\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ve onu \u015fifaland\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, o yaralardan hediyelerini alacaks\u0131n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yaralar\u0131n, maskelerin, onlar\u0131n hayat\u0131nda nas\u0131l oynad\u0131klar\u0131n\u0131n, ya\u015fam\u0131n\u0131-ger\u00e7ekli\u011fini nas\u0131l \u015fekillendirdi\u011finin fark\u0131na vararak ba\u015fla. Onlardan nas\u0131l konu\u015ftu\u011funu, davrand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131, tepki g\u00f6sterdi\u011fini ya da tav\u0131r sergiledi\u011fini fark et. Fark\u0131ndal\u0131k ilk ad\u0131md\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not: E\u011fer daha fazla \u015eifa i\u00e7eri\u011fiyle ilgileniyorsan bu sayfay\u0131 ziyaret edebilirsin.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sadece sevgi,<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

CDHR<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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